No, I Don’t Have Have Any Tits: The Flat-Chested Girl’s Struggle

flat chest 2Hello you fine chicas. Today I’m here to talk to you about boobs, or in fact my lack thereof. I know I’m not alone inthe Itty Bitty Titty Club and so I’m hoping that this post might resonate with a few of my fellow small basooma owners.

You see, I basically barely developed in the boobage department. I am unashamedly a 32B, though I think that’s just a bit of a fluke as sans underwear I definitely look like I’m rocking an A cup. And this fact is genuinely something that has very rarely bothered me throughout my years as a flat chested adult; what has bothered me though is everyone else’s seeming problem with my lack of problem with it.

It seems to me that in today’s society, where we’re all meant to be so pro-body confidence and all about embracing our bodies as they are (insert more Gok Wan babble here), having a go at small boobs is the last thing that it’s still okay to do. We all seem to have learned that it’s rude to pick on a woman for her weight, yet it seems perfectly fine to sneer at girls who aren’t packing much in the old mammaries.  So many times I have heard snide comments about other people along the lines of ‘oh yeah she’s pretty… but she hasn’t got any boobs’ and I’ve even had so-called friends actually make comments to me before a night out such as ‘wow, you actually look like you have tits tonight’… as if that’s not completely rude?

I think it all stems from an idea that girls with small boobs, or girls who are generally slim, are not ‘real women’. On one night out while I was at uni, I was with my friend in the toilets. My friend was a good 5’10 in height and at a size 10-12 looked perfectly in proportion and healthy, yet was still bemoaning the fact that she used to be a size 8 and wanted to go on a diet. Some random girl then pops up out of nowhere and – probably thinking she’s being nice – starts berating my friend, telling her that she shouldn’t strive to be a size 8 because she’s a ‘real woman’ and ‘real women aren’t a size 8’. I was standing there in my size 6-8 Motel Rocks bodycon dress, listening to this girl basically telling me I wasn’t a real woman and thinking ‘oh right love, what am I then – a fucking seahorse?’

We seem as a society to have become so pro-curves that we’ve actually done a 180 and now made skinny or flatchested girls feel like they’re lacking as women. The idea that we could possibly be happy with ourselves in the same way that curvy girls are seems absurd. The amount of people I’ve had ask me if I’d ever have a boob job is actually quite shocking when you realise how rude it is. Now, my older sister had a boob job a couple of years ago (so I’m obviously not knocking them) and so when it’s people who know that who ask me it doesn’t offend me as much, as it seems more logical. But when it’s people who are just looking at me and assuming surely I must want a boob job, it’s downright offensive. You wouldn’t just walk up to someone with a big nose and say ‘Cor, don’t you fancy getting that schnozz sorted?’ or approach a bigger girl and ask whether she’s consider having her fat sucked out of her.

On the topics of boob jobs, like I’ve said I really don’t disagree with them. If you’re genuinely unhappy with your body then by all means make whatever changes you want. My only concern is when girls are having them done because of the opinions of others, especially men. I’ve seen a lot of women on TV state that their reason for a boob job was feeling unwomanly or inadequate with their partner – and I think that’s desperately sad. I know it’s rarely the boyf’s fault and they’re probably super nice people who tell their girlfriend she’s perfect as she is. But in those cases where a boyfriend is responsible for the girl feeling bad about herself, then I think it’s awful. Here is a fact: if he has a problem with your boobs, then HE is a boob and deserves to be sacked off immediately.

Sure, there are plenty of men out there who like bigger boobs. I know for sure that there are lads I’ve met who probably would have liked me more if I had bigger boobs. But is that a reason for me to go in search of bigger boobs? Er, no. I think the real key to body confidence, in regards to relationships and attraction anyway, is to accept that you’re never going to be everyone’s cup of tea. Some men simply won’t like you because you have small boobs/are bigger than a size 12/have a flat arse/are blonde/are brunette/have an extra thumb. And it’s really no criticism on them, as women are just as picky. I for one will refuse to date a boy who wears a gilet. Different strokes etc.

I could waffle on about this topic all day; I suppose  I have a lot to get off my chest – and I certainly have the room to do so (badumchhh). But my ultimate point (I know, it’s surprising that I have one after all that waffle) is that we should all just ACCEPT ONE ANOTHER and accept that WE ARE ALL REAL WOMEN. You got a vajayjay, you’re in the club regardless. So let’s stop trying to put girls down on any little thing we can think of and just get on with our own lives and shaking our own jelly.

What do you all think? Has anyone else in the Itty Bitty Titty Club encountered this kind of thing? Please let me know your thoughts in the comments below 🙂

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19 Responses

  1. Jessica Edmunds April 16, 2014 / 6:38 pm

    Ah man this is literally something I can only praise with a hand gesture cos this is AMAZING. I cannot believe how perfectly you have hit the nail on the head, how long I have sat thinking about this, getting upset about this and NOT knowing how to word it.
    LOVE YOU xxx

    • Claire April 16, 2014 / 8:58 pm

      Aw I am so glad you feel the same way! It’s hard being made to feel like you SHOULD feel inadequate, all we can do is be confident anyway. And you have such a ridiculously good figure there would never be anything to be self-conscious about anyway 🙂 xxx

  2. Lauren April 16, 2014 / 8:57 pm

    I’m not particularly on the slim side but I do have no bust and completely agree on this real woman thing. I hate it, like skinny girls aren’t real? What are they then? It’s also a bit of an excuse of people that are overweight, I’m not knocking it I know it’s hard to loose weight but it is still unhealthy to be overweight so I don’t think it should be celebrated
    Lauren
    livinginaboxx

    • Claire April 16, 2014 / 9:14 pm

      Glad I’m not the only one, it’s so insulting isn’t it? Ahh that’s such a valid point – I know you have healthy and unhealthy in all weight ranges, but some people definitely use it an as an excuse. I’m thinking Gemma from TOWIE here! Thanks for commenting (and for actually making it through the post!) xx

  3. Kat April 16, 2014 / 10:00 pm

    I thought I’d be rather flat in the chest department too until I hit 16 and then BOOM my boobs appeared overnight (not quite that literally but over the summer holidays haha) and I suddenly had 34F boobs. That’s great for me, right? Not when they were covered in evil, red stretchmarks from their sudden arrival that knocked my confidence even more than having smaller boobs that I’d been worrying about… I’ve fluctuated in weight a couple of times over the years and now I’m a 32E which suits my figure at a 10/12. I totally agree that we should all just accept what we are all different and no one is more “real” than anyone else for having bigger/smaller bodies in some way. I’m actually quite envious on occasion of ladies with smaller boobs as they can look so much nicer in outfits plus the lack of bra at certain times would be awesome too, I could never get away with it! xx

    Kat from Blushing Rose Beauty

    • Claire April 17, 2014 / 9:25 am

      Oh gosh that must have been quite a shock haha! You’ve completely hit the nail on the head though, there are good and bad points about both situations. There are certain things that I can’t wear as they’ll hang wrong, but then I know that I suit other things more than my friends with bigger boobs. We’re never going to have it all so why not just make the most of what we have? Thanks so much for reading and commenting, great to get your view! 🙂 xx

  4. Beca April 16, 2014 / 10:23 pm

    You got it totally right, I’m 5’4” I’m a size 6 on top and a 10 on the bottom, being totally out of proportion leaves me feeling masculine around my chestier friends. I constantly see and hear reminders that ‘real’ women are curvy with big boobs, its totally belittling! 🙁 xxx

    • Claire April 17, 2014 / 9:22 am

      YES same for me as I’m 5’2 – I have been told I have the figure of a 12 year old boy before which is nice 😐 But we’re obviously just petite people so it’s our natural shape, nothing for others to try to put us down about! xx

  5. jenn April 17, 2014 / 9:34 am

    I totally agree! I hate how it seems ok to say that anyone under a size 10 isn’t a ‘real woman’ or when people say ‘us normal girls will never be a size 8’ -so I’m not normal now?! You look fab, and as long as you know that, that’s what matters!

    Jenn | PhotoJennic

    x

    • Claire April 17, 2014 / 5:00 pm

      Oh gaaaahd yes, people speak about size 8 as if it’s freakishly skinny or unhealthy, which of course it isn’t – it’s just some people’s natural frame, in the same way that some girls will never be below a 12. Thanks for your comment lovely, glad others feel the same! xx

  6. Rachael April 17, 2014 / 1:38 pm

    Claaaaiiiiiiire!! *starts an emotional slow clap*

    You’re spot on. I’m a pretty average 10-12, but it really annoys me when people go on about size 6-8 girls not being ‘real women’. So rude. And I think you’ve spoken for millions on the little boobies front. I was the same until I decided to have a boob job a few years ago. If I’d read this blog at that time though, I might not have bothered!

    Nah – I woulda bought the boobies regardless.

    Great post! 🙂 x

    • Claire April 17, 2014 / 5:02 pm

      Oh gosh I’ve always wanted to receive my very own slow clap, you’ve made my day :’) Haha I’m so glad you agree though! I say if you wanna buy boobies then buy boobies, if you don’t then don’t and people should accept that either way xx

  7. Holly April 18, 2014 / 12:40 am

    Oooh yes the whole ‘real women’ thing makes me mad! I think it was started with good intentions to make bigger women feel good about themselves, but has now gone so far that naturally more petite or slimmer built women are made to feel bad?!

    Now I fall into neither category but have had my own little struggles, I’m happy with my body and boobage right now, (size 10-12, 34D) but at age 18, despite the rest of me being slim, my bazookas seemingly overnight became a 34FF, could I find any bras? NO (not even in M&S). Could I wear normal clothes? NO. Did they look good? OH HELL NO! I mean to this day I don’t know what in gods name this growth spurt was about, I spent about 2 years having no choice but to buy large and low cut clothing, (getting anything with a higher neckline on was a laugh I tell you, and most likely made them look droopy and in fact emphasised their hugeness) alongside being objectified by the willied ones, who forgot I had a face!
    Needless to say I had small-boob envy and would have gladly shared haha, so although my problem is rather different, I get you!

    Also must add I think you look stunning in every single outfit you’ve ever posted, you have a gorgeous girly figure and know exactly how to dress it…who needs big boobs if you look that good just exactly as you are?!
    🙂
    Holly Mixtures
    xx

    • Claire April 27, 2014 / 8:17 pm

      Ahh maaaan, that must have been a nightmare! One of the pluses of being in the flat chested club is definitely the lack of excessive perving from men (they have to wait until we’ve walked off to perve on the bootay). Thanks so much for your comment lovely! xx

  8. Naomi April 19, 2014 / 8:28 pm

    I. Love. This.
    You got it spot on! I’m definitely in the club and I’m not bothered at all! Xx

    • Claire April 27, 2014 / 8:18 pm

      Yay so glad you agree and that you’re also happy in yourself 🙂 xx

  9. Yuen Lim April 20, 2014 / 4:20 pm

    Great post & beautifully worded! I’m pretty flat-chested as well but honestly, I don’t have a problem with it! Being 5’1″, I think that having bigger boobs would put me out of proportion. Besides, a major perk is that it’s super easy/alright to go sans bra if an outfit calls for it! 😉

    Yuen @ The Craziest Paradigm – fashion, beauty + lifestyle

    • Claire April 27, 2014 / 8:19 pm

      I completely agree, I’m only 5’2 and so would look completely disproportionate too. Sometimes people just have a small frame and that’s how we are 🙂 Haha and you’re definitely correct there. Thank you for the comment! xx

  10. Sky December 26, 2017 / 3:36 pm

    Girl you ain’t even flat try being 34 aa count yourself lucky id kill for a b cup

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